April 21, Things I learned in marriage part two
I want to continue with some stuff I've learned through 30 years of marriage:
6. You don't have to do everything together
I've read countless books on marriage for counseling and marriage series. I usually agree with just about everything written but there has always been one item in every book I've disagreed with. All books recommend you do a bunch of stuff together as a couple. I can see their point but for Deb and I it has worked great for us to have our own hobbies and time. Deb loves to shop and I despise it. I love the outdoors, fishing and hunting. Deb despises it. She shops and I hunt. Works great. But we do a lot of stuff together also.
I'm convinced it depends on the couple in regards to this topic.
7. Don't worry about winning an argument, just settle it
I don't care how good a marriage you have there will be disagreements. The problem with me was that I always wanted to win the disagreement and not just settle it. And that never helped. I've learned through the years it is ok to be wrong. Yes i said that. Now granted, I'm not usually wrong but when I am, it is OK.
8. SEX
I could write a book on this topic. Not because of my expertise but from my ignorance. After 30 years there is no other woman on this planet I'd rather make love to than my precious wife. There is so much more involved than physical appearance. Our hearts are connected. Our lives have become one. I enjoy making love to my wife even more today than 30 years ago and I look forward to another 30 years.
9. It takes two to make a marriage work
I have learned a great deal about marriage through counseling other couples. And one thing I've found out is that everyone is always blaming the other one. It takes two to make a marriage work. No one person can do it alone. My Mom did EVERYTHING to make her marriage to Dad work and she couldn't do it. It takes the husband doing his part and the wife doing her part. And when both parties are working with the same goal marriage is one of the most beautiful things on this planet.
10. Above all else, glorify god through your marriage
I pray on a regular basis that our marriage will be an example to others. I want Christ to be seen and glorified through everything our marriage represents.
To Debbie, thank you so much for past 30 years. It hasn't been easy but I wouldn't trade them for anything. I love you baby doll!
6. You don't have to do everything together
I've read countless books on marriage for counseling and marriage series. I usually agree with just about everything written but there has always been one item in every book I've disagreed with. All books recommend you do a bunch of stuff together as a couple. I can see their point but for Deb and I it has worked great for us to have our own hobbies and time. Deb loves to shop and I despise it. I love the outdoors, fishing and hunting. Deb despises it. She shops and I hunt. Works great. But we do a lot of stuff together also.
I'm convinced it depends on the couple in regards to this topic.
7. Don't worry about winning an argument, just settle it
I don't care how good a marriage you have there will be disagreements. The problem with me was that I always wanted to win the disagreement and not just settle it. And that never helped. I've learned through the years it is ok to be wrong. Yes i said that. Now granted, I'm not usually wrong but when I am, it is OK.
8. SEX
I could write a book on this topic. Not because of my expertise but from my ignorance. After 30 years there is no other woman on this planet I'd rather make love to than my precious wife. There is so much more involved than physical appearance. Our hearts are connected. Our lives have become one. I enjoy making love to my wife even more today than 30 years ago and I look forward to another 30 years.
9. It takes two to make a marriage work
I have learned a great deal about marriage through counseling other couples. And one thing I've found out is that everyone is always blaming the other one. It takes two to make a marriage work. No one person can do it alone. My Mom did EVERYTHING to make her marriage to Dad work and she couldn't do it. It takes the husband doing his part and the wife doing her part. And when both parties are working with the same goal marriage is one of the most beautiful things on this planet.
10. Above all else, glorify god through your marriage
I pray on a regular basis that our marriage will be an example to others. I want Christ to be seen and glorified through everything our marriage represents.
To Debbie, thank you so much for past 30 years. It hasn't been easy but I wouldn't trade them for anything. I love you baby doll!
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